Posts tagged generation
It's been on my mind...
Dating.  Or lack there of...

I was talking to a few of my girlfriends about this the other day.  Let me start with the general question:

"Why don't men want to date anymore?"

What ever happened to going out on a date, getting to know someone, having good conversation, and finding satisfaction through that?  These guys seem to want instant gratification, and it's like, just because you bought me a plate of pasta and a mojito doesn't mean I owe you anything other than my time!

Which brings me to my next question... Does traditional dating exist in our generation?
A good night kiss used to be a big deal (it still is for me), but I feel like that's labeled as prude today.  Women may feel they have to submit to certain "actions" in order to keep the interest of the guy they are seeing (which is ridiculous), but sometimes is what happens.  But what about the guys that take you out on a date that seem to be decent men?  Are they going a long with this "dating process" and being a "gentleman" in hopes to eventually get in your pants?  Is that always the ultimate goal?

Wearing a Bar III jacket, Flying A dress, Enigma wedges
My eyes are like half closed in all these photos.  I blame allergies!
Does location affect one's mindset when meeting someone they find attractive?  For instance, meeting someone in the club vs. at a family/social gathering, or even a professional setting.  Of course when you're in the club or a bar, everyone's drinking/dancing, juices flowing (lol)... Guys may have expectations of how the night should end... SO I guess if anything, if you go home with a guy from the club, do NOT expect a relationship to blossom out of that!  Clearly!!  As far as meeting someone at a social gathering or professional setting... Is there an unspoken barrier of respect that men will have for you that isn't there at a club or bar type environment?

Furthermore, all the advancements in technology have had a huge influence on how we communicate.  We want to send/receive things in the quickest, fastest way possible at all times.  We spend money for the top of the line, fastest, thinnest, lightweight piece of technology to get what we want, when we want it.  That mentality has crossed over into other aspects of our daily lives, and I feel it is a hinderance to direct person-to-person communication.  If you feel more comfortable texting me than talking to me face to face, you have a problem (lol).

So where am I supposed to meet this gentleman who can speak eloquently (preferably 6'3," abs of steel, corporate, but creative), respectful, kind, funny, a family man?
Do I have high standards?

I know I can't label all men as such, I'm really more focusing on guys in my generation, but I know not all guys in my generation are like the guy I'm describing...

What do you guys think??  Let's discuss this! :)