January 10, 2011

Rude Awakening

I had a really important conversation yesterday with a family friend/mentor that really woke me up.  She opened up my eyes to the fact that I'm going to have to work a lot harder than I am now to achieve the goals I have set for myself.  There are countless aspirations I hold, and as my elders always tell me, "You're in your early 20's.  This is the time to try out a whole bunch of careers.  You may not figure out right away what you want do, but you will for sure find out what you don't want to do."

In any career field, whether it lies in Corporate America or starting your own small business out of your home, there takes a certain amount of time, dedication, and a bit of luck to become successful in it.  However, the dichotomy between the two make us "creative money seekers" (that is, wanting to be able to make a decent living from our creative lifestyles) fall into the space in between the the two, leaving us confused.  Is there a way to achieve the benefits from both?  Can I hold a career in Corporate America without sacrificing my artistry?  What do you guys think?

At 22 years old I can say that I know I love music, and I love to write.  I will keep pursuing those fields because it is what I love to do.  I need to stay hungry, and keeping grinding to create and discover opportunities for myself, since I know I want to be doing it for the rest of my life.  As we all know, time waits for no one.  It is time for me to step it up!  Like my best friend told me yesterday, "You can't let life get in the way of living."

On a lighter note (lol), my best friends and I FINALLY did our Christmas Gift Exchange haha!

Sasha (the lady with locs) received a brass knuckle mug and a flask from Lei, and a velour sweatsuit (inside joke) and a Vicki's Secret gc from myself.  Lei received a booked called "6 Billion Others: Portraits of Humanity from Around the World" from Sash.  She also got some cute pilates outfits from moi so she can look cute when she teaches her classes (she's just weeks shy from her certification)!

We took some outfit pics during the gift exchange... Why not?  Sasha IS my photographer and all!

Wearing: Express cowl neck sweater dress (I got on the sale rack for $20!), F21 tights, Madden Girl boots
I think my collar bones are fighting to take the spotlight in that picture above lol...

Today is also the last day I'm rocking straight hair for awhile.  Time to go back to my nappy roots lol.  Especially since I'm starting to workout again :)

I received a beautiful scarf and two great books from Sash and Lei:

One of my favorite designers!

The one is called Faces of Africa, and it features portraits of the the many diverse cultural traditions of tribes and communities in different parts of Africa, while also showcasing aesthetics from hair to fashion.  I love it!  The other, "101 Things I Learned in Fashion School" is such a cool book.  The tips include a breakdown of fabrics, quotes from famous designers, and how-to's!  Ladies who aren't necessarily designers, but want to educate themselves more on the fashion world in general, a definite recommendation!

Here's an excerpt:

Random Hypothesis
"Your shoes say who you are; your hair or hat says how you wish to be perceived."



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  1. Hi! I loved your post. I think about the same dilemma every day. I graduated in May and took the easy route. Got a corporate job in marketing. I feel like I have sacrificed my spirit and part of my morals. I say always go with your gut and not whats considered the right thing to do. I believe that happiness and work can be combined and everyone can do what they love! Stay focused!

  2. Nice job on your blog. And thanks for blogging our book! Good luck in your eventual career choice. Best, Matt Frederick

  3. you look beautiful in that dress!

    i'm 23 and totally agree with your post. this is the time to experiment! i work in music as a creative coordinator so i can get fashion/music all in one - im lucky to have found something that i love!

  4. You look super cute! I can totally relate with this post. I feel like I've been on a "who am I?" journey for the past 2 years! Continue to try new things, dig deep and ask yourself "Who am I? What do I love? What's important to me?" I'm sure it will come, it has to!!!


  5. I am loving the various gifts! esp. the books. and you look happy and lovely!!

  6. You look so gorgeous! Love those red tights and that knit dress. So chic!



  7. This posts hits close to home as we too are trying to figure out what path to take after graduation. It`s a difficult question to face ; should one put all their effort into solely following their dreams or be "sensible" and take whatever job is offered in this harsh economy?

    In the end, it`s important to find a balance between both or else one's happiness, which is most important to us, could potentially be sacrificed.

    Christine & Caira of The Luxe Standard

  8. love the new banner...as late as i am *blush*


  9. now that is how you rock colored tights. they don't look good on me, but you are doing it!

    your mentor is exactly right. hard work is key. i find what keeps me motivated is surrounding myself with people who are doing big things in life!

    but also remember you should work to live and not live to work. enjoying life is important too :)

  10. love your banner! so cool! :-)


  11. Keep pushing for that which you are passionate about!Lovely snow picture-loves it!Your hair is gorgy too :)

  12. i love the pics!!it's so fantastic to read your comments! i'm loving it! hope you know that k come karolina is also on bloglovin, facebook and twitter :) so cu soon!!!

    xoxo from rome

  13. I'm so happy that some of you feel the same way! And thanks for the positivity you're sending my way! It feels good to know you're not alone. Always strive for what you want, we can't let Corporate America get in the way of our dreams! If anything, let's use it as an aid to help us get to where we want to be!



  14. Dope sweater dress and contrasting tights. What polish are you wearing in these photos?

  15. Love your outfit! you look so pretty in these pictures!




  16. I love those beautiful photos of the African women! It looks like a great book..



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